
"Written by a Dad who needed this, to stay with his kids — and still carries the scars of not having it sooner."
— Russ, Social Worker, Author, NLP Master Practitioner & Men's Transformation Coach
- "I don't want to leave my kids, but I just can't keep doing this"
- "I feel like a failure as a Dad and a partner, even though I try"
- "I know I need to change but I don't even know where to start"
- "I'm so stuck in my own head"
- "Every time I try harder — nothing changes"
- "My partner's pulling away and I don't know how to stop it"
If you're nodding — you're not broken.
You're just running on old programming that no-one ever taught you to update.
"If you're reading this, you're probably scared. Maybe your partner has given you an ultimatum. Maybe you've been told you need to change or you're losing your kids.
Maybe you're looking at a future where you only see them every second weekend —
and that breaks your heart more than anything.
I'm not here to tell you the system is broken or you've been treated unfairly.
I'm here to tell you this:
You still have time. And you still have power.
The only thing you can actually control is who you show up as.
Not the system. Not her decisions. Not what others think. You.
This book shows you how."
The complete no-BS system
A framework to follow
Exercises to complete
that help you to stop reacting,
rebuild your self-respect,
and lead your life again.
Written in plain language for men who work with their hands and don't have time for fluff.
“...I finally understand why I kept reacting and I am now a much happier person and respect myself and others, more than ever. I will not delete Russ’s number from my phone...”
“...Something actually shifted and we are now excited for the first time in years, for what lies ahead. Russ gets it - he's been there”
“Russell helped us save our marriage and the relationship with our children. What he offered us was more than support, it was a truly valuable gift...”
Hi, I’m Russ. I’m a Dad who knows what it feels like to love his kids with everything he has, while watching his family slip through his hands.
I’m also a Men’s Transformation Coach, NLP Master Practitioner, and Relationship Counsellor.
When I left my family, I had no idea what was waiting around the corner.
What hurts most is knowing that if I understood then what I understand now, things may have been different.
That is why I wrote this manual. Not to judge you. Not to lecture you. But to give good Dads the information we were never taught as boys — how to reset our thinking, understand ourselves,
how to deal with our stuff, and show up differently before more damage is done.
Your kids don't need a perfect Dad. They need a Dad who is willing to learn, to grow, to take responsibility, and become a best friend to the man he sees in the mirror.

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Written by a Dad who can totally relate to where you are.